पूछा मेने आइने से

 पूछा मेने आइने से, 

                       बता कैसी लगती हु?

निहार कर कूछ देर बोला......

मस्तिष्क पर रेखाएं नजर आ रही है,

                पर इनमें फ़िक्र अपनो की है।

आखो में काजल सजी नही, नीचे डार्क सर्कल है,

               अपनो के लिये तू ठीक से सोई नहीं है।

कानो में पहनी बाली नहीं,

             पर तूने अनकहा सुनने का हुनर आ गया है।

होठोपे सजी लाली नही,

           पर तेरे बोल मे प्यार झलकता है।

नाखून टूटे बेरंग है,

              पर हाथों मे स्वाद आ गया है।

तोंद थोड़ीसी बाहर आगई है,

             यह खुद को समय ना देने का नतीजा है।

कमर तेरी कमसीन ना सही,

             तूने झुकना सिख लिया है।

घुटनों में थोड़ा दर्द है,

              पर घरमे, दौड़ तेरी मेरथन वाली है।

तू कल भी खूबसूरत थी, आजभी है....

           कल तू चंचल राधा थी, आज लक्ष्मी हो गई है।

Being relevant

    

 

Problem Solving

Every day, each one of us are confronted with some situations which needs solution. Someone misses the bus to his office, someone suddenly falls sick, someone has some other problem.These problems are so common that they are treated as routine. Such things get solved each day, and life goes on. 

 

But in life, all problems are not as simple as the ones mentioned. Imagine the loss of life of someone whom we love and care for, huge financial losses leading to adverse living conditions, loss of employment, deterioration of health and so on. These are difficult to face and makes us clueless about “what next”. Truly these are real problems of life. Thus, a problem maybe defined as a situation which is either confusing or that shatters us. “Problem solving” is what we do, when we don’t understand what to do. It involves a process of working through the details of a problem to arrive at the solution. Solving involves both analytical and creative skills. During such situations, the first thing that we have to do is to recognize that there is a problem and accept it. Living in denial and dodging things makes the solution more difficult and distant. Occasionally, there maybe problems for which time holds the solution. This does not mean that we should sleep over our problems. 

 

In academics at school/college, problem solving is part of both teaching and assessment. Be it problem solving in physics, maths or engineering, the benefits not only relate to developing expertise in domain, but also builds the general capability of problem solving in handling day to day issues. The solution sometimes maybe very creative. Children are generally very creative. They can do out of the box thinking too which is important in problem solving. It is important to nurture problem solving skills from a very young age. Here is an interesting story to illustrate the same. 

 

A professional lady was on a “work from home” mode on a particular day. She was very busy working on her computer but her 5 year old daughter kept disturbing her. To keep her daughter busy for a while, the mother found a map of the world printed in a magazine.The mother quickly pulled out the page and tore it into several pieces. She then gave it to her daughter and asked her to put the map together. The daughter was happy and went to her room. The mother was happy that she could work peacefully for another 30 minutes as that was the time needed to put the pieces together. The daughter came back running in 5 minutes and announced that she finished the puzzle. The mother was surprised! She asked her daughter how she was able to put the pieces together so fast. The daughter replied “It was very simple Amma. The other side of the map was the picture of a lady’s face. I just put the picture of the face in place.” 

 

Life’s problems may not necessarily be confined to self and family. Problems may be at school, workplace or the neighbor hood. Each problem maybe unique and its solution too. Though there is no standard method to solve all problems, the following steps generally help in arriving at a   solution. 

 

The first step is the description or the definition of the problem. This stage consists of asking the right questions and collecting and organizing all information relating to the problem. This is followed by the definition of the end goal.

 

The second step would be to plan a solution. This can be done by breaking down the big problem into smaller ones which are easy to solve. This stage also involves assessing various possible solutions.

 

The third step is to implement the plan and continuously asses the progress. 

 

The fourth step would be to check for the right result or the end goal. A feedback at this stage would also help in fine-tuning wherever required. 

 

When one has a problem, it is better to take help from people who are directly affected by the problem as they understand it better than someone external to the problem. The story below illustrates the same.

 

Once a toothpaste factory had a unique problem. The factory would manufacture the paste, fill it into a metal toothpaste tube, which would in turn would be packed inside a thick labeled paper casing / box. These individual casings would be packed in a carton box and sent to shops. Customers buying individual toothpaste cases found the toothpaste tubes missing in the box. This annoyed the customers and the customers started switching to other brands. The CEO of the toothpaste company started getting worried. He called an external consulting firm to help solve his problem. The external agency came, studied their production line and gave a detailed report suggesting improvements. This took about 6 months and a costed a big sum. The agency suggested to install a weighing scale at the end of the production line where the toothpaste boxes landed. If the box had the tube inside, it would match the preset weight and would move forward. If the tube was missing in the box, the weight would be less and the production line would sound an alarm and the whole production process would stop till someone removed the empty box. 

 

The CEO was happy that he did a smart thing by hiring the external agency to solve the problem. After few weeks, when the CEO was reviewing the production report, he noticed something very unusual. The number of defective boxes reaching the weighing scale had come down to zero. He asked his production team if they had changed anything in the production process for which they replied that there was no change. The CEO decided to visit the the factory to check this. When he visited the weighing scale section, he noticed that a small table fan was kept just before the weighing scale. He observed that the empty boxes were blown off by the fan even before they reached the weighing scale. He asked employees around as to who had kept the fan there.They said “Sir, that is kept by the guy who is responsible for taking out the empty boxes from the scale when the alarm sounded. He was tired of running from his place every time the alarm went on. So, he kept the fan there.” The CEO realized that the employee working at the production line on a routine job was much better than the big consultant he hired! 

 

One of the take-aways from the story is that creativity can solve any problem.

Thanks to Dr. H S Nagaraja

You never know

A doctor entered the hospital in hurry after being called in for an urgent surge...ry. He answered the call ASAP, changed his clothes & went directly to the surgery block. He found the boy's father pacing in the
hall waiting for the doctor. On seeing him, the dad yelled, "Why did you take all this time to come? Don't you know that my son's life is in danger? Don't you have any sense of responsibility?"

The doctor smiled & said, "I am sorry, I wasn't in the hospital & I came as fast as I could after receiving the call...... And now, I wish you'd calm down so that I can do my work"

"Calm down?! What if your son was in this room right now, would U calm down? If your own son dies now what will U do??" said the father angrily.

The doctor smiled again & replied: Go & intercede for your son, we will do our best by God's grace"

"Giving advises when we're not concerned is so easy" Murmured the father.

The surgery took some hours after which the doctor went out happy, "Thank goodness!, your son is saved!" And without waiting for the father's reply he carried on his way running. "If U have any question, ask the nurse!!"

"Why is he so arrogant? He couldn't wait some minutes so that I ask about my son's state" Commented the father when seeing the nurse minutes after the doctor left.

The nurse answered, tears coming down her face: "His son died yesterday in a road accident, he was in the burial when we called him for your son's surgery. And now that he saved your son's life, he left running to
finish his son's burial."
Moral: Never judge anyone because you never know how their life is & what they're going through.
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I Believe...

Thanks Gyan for sharing wonderful thoughts.... 

A Birth Certificate shows that we were born 

A Death Certificate shows that we died 

Pictures show that we lived! 

Have a seat . Relax . . . And read this slowly. 

I Believe... 

That just because two people argue, It doesn't mean they don't love each other. And just because they don't argue, It doesn't mean they do love each other. 

I Believe... 

That we don't have to change friends if We understand that friends change. 

I Believe.... 

That no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that. 

I Believe... 

That true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I Believe... 

That you can do something in an instant That will give you heartache for life. 

I Believe....

That it's taking me a long time To become the person I want to be. 

I Believe... 

That you should always leave loved ones with Loving words. It may be the last time you see them. 

I Believe....

Good Story to Understand Way of Living Our Life...!!!

Thanks Kiran for sharing wonderful insight....


"When I was a little girl, my mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner
every now and then. And I remember one night in particular when she had
made breakfast after a long, hard day at work.


On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage, and
extremely burned toast in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if
anyone noticed! Yet all my dad did was reach for his toast, smile at my
mom, and ask me how my day was at school. I don't remember what I told him
that night, but I do remember watching him smear butter and jelly on that
toast and eat every bite!


When I got up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my mom
apologize to my dad for burning the toast. And I'll never forget what he
said: 'Baby, I love burned toast.'


Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if He
really liked his toast burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said,
'Debbie, your Momma put in a hard day at work today and she's real tired.
And besides-a little burnt toast never hurt anyone!' You know, life is
full of imperfect things....and imperfect people. I'm not the best
housekeeper or
cook.


What I've learned over the years is that learning to accept each other's
faults - and choosing to celebrate each other's differences - is one of
the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting
relationship.


And that's my prayer for you today. That you will learn to take the good,
the bad, and the ugly parts of your lives and lay them at the feet of GOD.
Because in the end, He's the only One who will be able to give you a
marriage where burnt toast isn't a deal-breaker!


We could extend this to any relationship in fact - as understanding is the
base of any relationship, be it a husband-wife or parent-child or
friendship!! "

Beautiful quote

Life is just too big. it does not stop if something goes wrong in it at some point of time. At the same time it is too short to fullfill all your dreams, if you have vision and potential to achieve.

Someone might need you

A nurse took the tired, anxious serviceman to the bedside.

"Your son is here," she said to the old man.

She had to repeat the words several times before the patient's eyes
opened.

Heavily sedated because of the pain of his heart attack, he dimly saw the
young uniformed Marine standing outside the oxygen tent. He reached out his
hand. The Marine wrapped his toughened fingers around the old man's limp
ones, squeezing a message of love and encouragement.

The nurse brought a chair so that the Marine could sit beside the bed.All
through the night, the young Marine sat there in the poorly lighted ward,
holding the old man's hand and offering him words of love and strength.
Occasionally, the nurse suggested that the Marine move away
and rest awhile.

He refused. Whenever the nurse came into the ward, the Marine was oblivious
of her and of the night noises of the hospital - the clanking of
the oxygen tank, the laughter of the night staff members exchanging
greetings, the cries and moans of the other patients.

Now and then she heard him say a few gentle words. The dying man said
nothing, only held tightly to his son all through the night.

Along towards dawn, the old man died. The Marine released the now lifeless
hand he had been holding and went to tell the nurse. While she did what she
had to do, he waited.

Finally, she returned. She started to offer words of sympathy, but the
Marine interrupted her.

"Who was that man?" he asked.

The nurse was startled, "He was your father," she answered.


"No, he wasn't," the Marine replied. "I never saw him before in my life."

"Then why didn't you say something when I took you to him?"

"I knew right away there had been a mistake, but I also knew he needed his
son, and his son just wasn't here. When I realized that he was too sick to
tell whether or not I was his son, knowing how much he needed me, I
stayed."

The next time someone needs you ... just be there. Stay.


WE ARE NOT HUMAN BEINGS GOING THROUGH A
TEMPORARY SPIRITUAL EXPERIENCE.
WE ARE SPIRITUAL BEINGS GOING THROUGH A TEMPORARY
HUMAN EXPERIENCE.

STAY YOUNG

HOW TO STAY YOUNG

1. Throw out nonessential numbers. This includes age, weight and height. Let the doctors worry about them. That is why you pay "them."

2. Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down.

3. Keep learning. Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever. Never let the brain idle. "An idle mind is the devil's workshop." And the devil's name is Alzheimer's.

4. Enjoy the simple things.

5. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.

6. The tears happen. Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person, who is with us our entire life, is ourselves. Be ALIVE while you are alive.

7. Surround you with what and whom you love, whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, and hobbies, whatever.

8. Cherish your health: If it is good, preserve it. If it is

Unstable, improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.

9. Don't take guilt trips. Take a trip to the mall, even to the next

County; to a foreign country but NEVER to where the guilt is.

10. Tell the people you love that you love them, at EVERY

Opportunity.



AND ALWAYS REMEMBER:

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that takes our breath away.

Chanakya quotes

Chanakya quotes (Indian politician, strategist and writer, 350 BC 75 BC )

• "A person should not be too honest. Straight trees are cut first and Honest people are screwed first."
• " Even if a snake is not poisonous, it should pretend to be venomous."
• "The biggest guru-mantra is: Never share your secrets with anybody. ! It will destroy you."
• "There is some self-interest behind every friendship. There is no Friendship without self-interests. This is a bitter truth."
• "Before you start some work, always ask yourself three questions - Why am I doing it, What the results might be and Will I be successful. Only when you think deeply and find satisfactory answers to these questions, go ahead."
• "As soon as the fear approaches near, attack and destroy it."
• "Once you start a working on something, don't be afraid of failure and don't abandon it. People who work sincerely are the happiest."
• "The fragrance of flowers spreads only in the direction of the wind. But the goodness of a person spreads in all direction."
• "Whore s don't live in company of poor men, citizens never support a weak company and birds don't build nests on a tree that doesn't bear fruits."
• "God is not present in idols. Your feelings are your god. The soul is your temple."
• "A man is great by deeds, not by birth."
• "Never make friends with people who are above or below you in status. Such friendships will never give you any happiness."
• "Treat your kid like a darling for the first five years. For the next five years, scold them. By the time they turn sixteen, treat them like a friend. Your grown up children are your best friends."
• "Books are as useful to a stupid person as a mirror is useful to a blind person."
• "Education is the best friend. An educated person is respected everywhere. Education beats the beauty and the youth."

Gandhi Giri

Today's new buzz word is GandhiGiri. When I saw LRMB, I was amazed. Story was well thought and presentation was for all class of the society.
Along with the entertainment, it makes you think (offcourse if you really want to) if Gandhi's concept are still workable after 60 years.
I think, they are.
Portions of the movie,
When Gandhi says, Let them break all my statues, photos etc but asked them to keep me in hearts.
When Gandhi asked MB to say sorry to Circuit at sea beach.
Again when he asked MB to keep patience, not to reply in anger.
are really relevant in our daily day-to-day interaction with other people.

Relationships are work . . .

They say “it takes two” to make a good relationship,And that’s why I’m asking for your help.I really love you, but things aren’t right between us,And I can’t fix it alone.

They say “relationships are work,” And I’m willing to work at what we have because,I don’t want to lose the good things we share.I really don’t want to lose you.

They say “don’t expect someone you love to be able to read your mind-Tell them what you want and what you need.”

That’s why I’m telling you,I still believe you’re the best thing that’s ever happened to me.

That’s why I’m hoping,You will help me peel away the parts that aren’t right,Because underneath that is the greatest love I’ve ever known.

We are worth it.I believe that with all my heart!

A friend is someone who thinks you're a good egg even though you're slightly cracked . . .